"You're racist"

When I thought about the question, “Would we approach someone who is racist?” Jay Smooth gives good reasons why you should. I thought his reasons are a reasonable way and yet, respectful way to approach someone who sounded a bit racist. Telling someone they’re racist might not always be a nice conversation. But the way Jay Smooth explains how to do it; it is a way that you may avoid all arguments. I think we should always let someone know when they sound racist and especially if they hurt your feelings with their comment. That’s when Jay Smooth comes in. He shows great ways to tell someone that they sound racist, instead of offending them by calling them something they may not be. That is why I really feel like everybody should watch this video, to get some knowledge about how to talk to someone. But his ideas of approaching people can be for anybody who wants to avoid pointless arguments. They can be for young kids, teenagers, and older adults. For me, the idea of confronting someone who is making racist comments is something important because it is really explaining on how you feel about it and how you may not want that to happen again. I say that you should always tell someone on what they did then what they are. To me, Jay Smooth makes complete sense and you can use his methods of approaching someone with rude comments. It is a way to do it with not only people who say racist comments, but people who say anything rude to you or so something that you don’t technically agree with.

The way Jay Smooth describes the difference between “what you do” and “what you are”, are fairly simple. Let me say the example he gave in the video, if someone snatches your wallet and you chase him, you are not going to talk to him about how he feels about being a thief but instead you are going to tell him what he did and how it wasn’t right of him to do it. Now let’s say if you have a conversation with someone and they start saying something about your kind of people and you tell him, “Oh man, you are racist.” Maybe that person didn’t mean to say that and it accidentally slipped out; you calling him a racist is going to stir things up and he or she is going to start this big argument about you calling him something he is not. Now let’s go back, and imagine this person says something about your kind of people, and you tell him, “Hey man, that wasn’t cool on what you said.” Now you are telling him on what he did instead of accusing him of what he may not be. That gives that person to apologize if it was an accident and he would understand you more on where you are coming from. That is what Jay Smooth is trying to make us understand. This is the right way if you want confront anybody. Because this doesn’t only imply on just racist comments, but on rude comments and any comments that anybody gives you about any topic. It is a way you can approach a teacher, an elder, a parent, or even your boss. Only because this is a respectful way of getting your opinion out about a comment or gesture they did to you. Just always do it without an attitude. Jay Smooth brought a good concept and we, all, should learn this and live by it.

Doll Face

Doll face is a video we all can relate too, a video where confuses you but it is a very broad term they're talking about. Doll face, once it began it was very strange and I was a little terrfied of what else was going to happen. But once I kept watching it, a bunch of things came into mind. But one main topic came to mind, and that was the media. The video of this girl being something she completely is not, just made me think of how many people are like her. How many people try to change their lives, their looks and the way they are just to fit in and to become accepted into this world? It is interesting how she keeps going closer and closer to the television and that just shows how, we people, would go to those measures to become what we see in the television. When she breaks and doesn’t reach it, we break when we are not accepted in groups or groups at school. We break, mentally. It feels horrible when you are not what everybody wants and take it from me I know how that feels. I know because everyone wants to fit into society and they want to be part of something. No one wants to be lonely. I know in my high school days I wanted to be loved and I would dress a certain way to catch the guy’s attention and what not. But at the end of the day that doesn’t fill the void in you and you still don’t feel accepted because it isn't the real you, the one who you are showing the world. I think the message of this story is what we see in the media is something that we as humans we can’t reach because we are not perfect, even the people who are in the media aren't perfect. But the media sets high standards and expects us to look a certain way and we can’t simply reach that. You can’t. You can try all you want but your results are going to be that you failed and break such as Doll face. God made us imperfect and we all have to realize that we are never going to reach what the media thinks we should look. We need to realize that we are imperfect and learn to love yourself because at the end life is too short to care for what the media thinks. 

Have no fear of perfection - you'll never reach it.
Salvador Dali 

Women

What we, woman, wear is a big issue to everyone; parents, friends, peers, and mainly society. What everybody thinks about us, is crucial sometimes. Yes, I think we do have the choice to wear what we want and we should wear it proudly. What society thinks is different; example, if a girl wears “booty shorts” society would call that a “slutty” outfit or provocative.  But honestly, I love wearing shorts and to be more honest I don’t care what society thinks of my shorts. That is what girls now-a-days are thinking like, “I don’t care what anybody says or thinks”. It is true; we have a right to not think we fit into those criticisms or that area that we are “slutty” by wearing short shorts. What society says is not what we really are by wearing certain things. Yes, there might be girls who are slutty and dresses like one but that doesn’t mean that every girl is one. I know there are some young girls who are so interested in being popular and being liked and she choices to wear fewer clothes to make guys like her and girls talk more about her. See from my experience being in middle school, I sadly was that girl who would want that negative attention and to get it, was dressing like an outcast; wear shorter skirts and lower tops. But I knew what society thought of me but you don’t care. That was the difference of how I was and how I am now. I used to dress a certain way to get negative attention from boys but now I wear a certain different clothes to express a way I feel. Now I know exactly what I am doing and how society thinks of us girls but now I know what the outcome of wearing clothes going to be like. Now I wear with confidence but not to get negative attention. At the end of this, we all have a right to express selves; some express themselves by the way they dress and some they just say what they feel. Sadly, our generation, girls are always being criticized but if we know that we are not what they think of us, we have a right to wear it all out and be proud of it.